Wednesday, August 16, 2006
Some kind of war going on eh?Quite extreme i would say.Didnt wan to get involve...but cant really just sit there and relax while my frens are being criticised?
Actually,i dun really think its good for u to say that of baoli.She has always been like that, and i would say that she is the most gentle girl among us.You didnt kan4 cuo4 ren2 like wat you said. She must have her own reason for saying what she had,and she added "no offence",at least,she bother to add.Just because of one sentence that she typed,you called her stupid?I thought she was quite nice to you also.
Okie next to sin.Its true that she was being harsh, and might have hurt you using the words, okie her fault.But i would like to say on her behalf that she does know you even though she might be a stranger to you.She is one of jing's closest frens.And one fact,girls have no secrets.That's a hint.We all quite agree on that issue. Its like, even jing had told you before not to call her that(and she was serious),why cant u listen?So its not like only sin was against it. Yes of course to you it might be nothing more than a nickname.But sometimes really need to consider abt others' situation ba.She has a bf,and her bf does not even call her a name half as mushy as that.What if her bf was tt kind of guy that get jealous easily?Then you would be putting jing in a difficult situation leh.Its something like a kind of respect i think.Sometimes, some things cant be put off by just a simple statement of"I dun care wat others think"or "But i dun mean that". And what would it be if any of jing's not-so-close frens happen to come into situations where they know you call her that(and she has a bf)..i dun think it would really reflect well on her.
Despite the fact that all the above are just "if",i still think that if you had respected her, you would not have continue calling her that.Its not like she likes it cos she never stop u from calling that, its just that she has no choice.I know u are not happy that sin said all those,but the way u phrase things..its nothing better.Pls dun say cos she was being yada yada yada and thus u are just repaying her using her method, thats call degrading urself. She is not some pple who thought she is perfect.You dunno her well, who are you to say that too?She certainly dun go orchard grabbing pple to tell them they are ugly.
Up till this point, i supposed you are thinking, so fei is just one of these kind of pple who like to go around scolding pple and misunderstanding pple.If you are not thinking tt way,i thank you.If you are thinking something along tt way,its fine with me too. I never forget abt the times we spent crapping and mapling before.In fact, i appreciate that u always helped me in the game and talk to me. So pls dun say that we only wan to take advantage of you before and now wan to bully u or kick u aside. I just felt that, sometimes u need to change ur mindset.
Not really related to the topic,but guess i should say it out anyway.It would sound bad, but i really think that its the best if u can change.And sure its okie if u think i am talking shit, cos u can have ur own point of view.I know you always try to be good to frens and try to help.Thats nice, cos i myself cant do that.But one bad thing, it seems to me that,most of the time u think that u are the victim.
We all wanted to advise u to forget abt tt certain girl.You wanted to go on.Later you decided that you should move on,but u insisted that u wan to keep ur promise of waiting for tt certain number of days.When jing tried to talk you out of it, u made it sound like including her some of ur frens kept mentioning that to hurt u further.(And pls dun blame jing if i am not supposed to know cos just nice she was at my house tt day ur talked)Seriously, these frens are the ones that really care...they just dun wan you to waste your time, and you said they were adding on to the wounds.If i got a close fren like tt...i would consider giving her a tight slap and ask her to wake up from her bloody lala land.Waiting for someone you wan to give up is not keeping a promise, thats called wasting time. Pple around you got hurt when they saw you down.
Pls..stop trying to be mr nice...sometimes it doesnt work.You complained to jing,and asked her to enjoy her day..how was she supposed to enjoy after she heard you complain?Such "good treatment" you received doesnt come frm nowhere.It might have been something u did that offend others.And yet the thing that come to ur mind was my fren is stupid and its a waste tt u treat her quite well...I am quite positive that she treated u well before too and in the end she received a "nice" comment also eh?When u announced that you are not visiting the blog cos u r not welcome, thats abit duh and again puts jing in hot soup.Of course u can visit it,who can tie ur hands and stop u?I might be petty but i supposed u just wan to show that u r in no mood to quarrel with the barbarians in the taggie.But really...like something i heard before, the person who really wan to commit suicide dun go around telling pple he/she is going to.
Well, by now i think i do sound like an ass.Like it or not,thats wat i observe.If you think everyone is scolding u and criticising you, then let it be.The world dun revolve around one person, everyone is linked and one thing triggers and affects other events easily.When you think many pple are against you, one way to solve the problem is to reflect.No point everyone against u for nothing.I understand that its easy for me to just talk, but unfortunately thats the fact. Thats all i have to say...i am okie with how you look at me now.My views might have faults, but thats what i observe.And i am totally fine with you accepting or not.Just note that, other than encouragements, criticises also push for improvement.
--Mary HAD a little lamb--
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